IV. Finding Happiness in Mid-Life

Post date: Dec 17, 2014 12:31:3 AM

Happiness—Organic Life--Embracing Your Mid-Life Transition Written by Dr. Trudy Hu, December 16, 2014

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“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

“Do we know of any (snowing) so silent and sudden a change?” Henry David Thoreau, 1858

Seasons of Life

Poets and artists have created numerous masterpieces to reflect the beauty of spring, summer and autumn. Human life can be divided into four seasons, too. Spring season in human life symbolizes innocence. Summer season is filled with exuberance. Autumn is the richest harvest time for achievements and reverence. Albeit winter seems to be bleak and austere externally, its serene breathtaking beauty can only be revealed through the enduring and harsh passage of perseverance.

Mid-Life Transition

Human life span theories tend to define mid-life transition or mid-life crisis by using ages, i.e., age 35-45 or from late 30s to early 40s. Due to the health science and technology development, the definition of mid-life for modern men and women should be extended to 40-65 or beyond. Mid-life transition is no longer limited by a number, the age. Also the manifestations have come in through a variety of awakening experiences and process, which is more than just buying a sport car, having an affair, or dating a younger individual.

Social Shock Waves

When the news of the death of Robin Williams, one of the most achieved and well-known comedians, was broadcast in the media on August 11, 2014, I happened to be in Silicon Valley handling a similar clinical emergency. The death of Robin Williams still shocked people through the core even after four months. The life of Robin Williams is one of the best definitions and representations of the ultimate American success; that is, starting as a talented young artist, decorated with a dazzling career, surrounded by shining awards and billions of fans in a worldwide stage, and reaching the climax of the twinkling stardom in the brightest Tinseltown, Hollywood. All eyes were on him and waiting for more magic and laughter. People try to emulate and follow his footsteps in order to reach the same goal but found themselves scratching their heads and dumbfound about the golden route to stardom ended with such an unexpected lonely heart break. Why?

To Change or Not To Change

After years of hard work to attain your dreams, no matter it is your degree, job, career, relationship, marriage, body image, interest, or a certain comfortable lifestyle, the comfort and security sets in and gradually turns into routine, boredom, or a strange feeling (unfulfilling numbness and dread). The paradoxical needs for secure survival and constant invigoration have been built into any organism. In the pursuit of secure survival or success, the nudge of change has been ignored, pushed to the back burner, or buried in the unawareness until the triggering issue happens.

Formula: Letting go of _________ I have worked so hard to attain for years is a huge risk.

Filling in the Blank Box: My job, my salary, my career, my project, my benefits, my status, my bonus, my image, my big house, my luxurious car, my investment, my disability/ unemployment benefits, my parents’ house, my booze, my medication, my marriage, my shopping habit, my eating habit, my acceptance of overweight image, my comfortable (but unhealthy) lifestyle, etc.

Wake Up Call

Even though we, organisms, have innate desire for innovation, the voice for revival usually is overshadowed or sabotaged by the needs for predictable security and physical comfort until the unexpected alarm ringing. The most common alarms are physical illness, severe medical diagnosis, your loved one’s terminal illness and death, death of your relationship (breakup, extra marital affairs, divorce), death of your career (lack of career future, dead end job, layoff, job loss, unemployment), death of your companionship (pets, friends, partners) and death of hope and dream (depression, desperation, desolation).

Formula: I am quite comfortable about _________ until I was informed that I have been ___________.

Filling in the first Blank Box: my life, my marriage, my work, etc.

Filling in the second Blank Box: hit by stroke, hit by heart attack, hit by panic attack, diagnosed with cancer, diagnosed with diabetes or hypertension or high cholesterol, informed that my husband/wife is having an extra-marital affairs, informed that I am fired, the shocking news of my loved one’s untimely death, etc.

Awakening to Aliveness

Wake up calls are always happening around us at any age. However, people tend to ignore them until the most common wake up calls mentioned in the previous paragraphs happen to themselves which is in average age range from 44-48 traditionally. But I found the average age is lower (age 25-35) for younger generations due to unhealthy and addictive lifestyles and the average age is higher (age 45-65) for older generations if they choose to live a healthy lifestyle.

Diseases are the manifestation of dysfunctional organs/organisms. Mental illnesses are the manifestation of dysfunctional relationships, thoughts, emotions, behavioral patterns. Either physical diseases or mental illnesses tend to reinforce another domain negatively and develop into an unhealthy lifestyle. By sending you the alarming warnings, your body, soul, or spirit is trying to break away from unhealthy food, toxic working environments, abusive or stifled relationships, lackadaisical sensations, or addictive and harmful habits. Your internal self is waking up and is hungry for aliveness which has been suppressed by long term starvation and suffocation caused by the lack of healthy nutrients, supportive nurturance, and healthy working and natural environments.

Organic Food, Organic Environments, Organic Lifestyles

Organic foods may be one important solution you may want to consider. Organic foods, also called rainbow food, demonstrate rainbow colors (red, orange, yellow, green, blue, black, white, purple) and balanced forms nurtured through nature. Processed foods display attractive presentation and packaging.

Organic relationships demonstrate a wide spectrum of emotions, thoughts and behaviors (happiness, sadness, loss, anger, frustration, hurt, fear, encouragement, excitement, positive or negative cycles). Abusive personal or working relationships tend to attract people through artificial/superficial sweetness, luxurious/luring rewards/gifts, and possessive attachment to cover up the control and manipulation derived from selfish insecurity.

Organic lifestyle involves biological, psychological and spiritual components. Organic biological component is not just organic food intake but also physical activities, including walking, running, jumping, exercising indoor or outdoor.

Organic psychological component is to wake up your senses and start to listen, see, taste, smell, touch, feel, cry and laugh.

Organic spiritual domain is to tune into your gentle nudge, low and quiet inner voice, and unhappy or heavy feeling inside yourself and allow yourself to confront your hollow aimless life, to seek help and liberate your loveless marriage, your suppressed soul and spirit to shed off burdens, breathe happiness freely, taste joy fearlessly, and become whole again for more vibrant revival to spring up.

Happy New Year to You!

During the New Year of 2015, I wish you and your loved ones “Happy New Year”.

When I asked my children which trip stands out in their memory, their answers are the most difficult and unbearable hiking trails during the long journey into the wildness in Cascade National Park and Lake Tahoe. You need to go through the Desolation Trail to be able to enjoy the Inspiration Point from the high vista point. When your surroundings are downsized, your loads are lighter and your horizons and perspectives become broader and endless.

I wish that you like the Organic Gift that I present to you during this winter season and the new year for joy, peace, and renewal.

Quotes about Winter

“The dry grasses are not dead… A beautiful form has as much life at one season as another.” Henry David Thoreau, 1850

“Nature, like an athlete, begins to strip herself in earnest for her contest with her great antagonist Winter. In the bare trees and twigs what a display of muscle.” Henry David Thoreau, 1858

“Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each.” Henry David Thoreau, 1853

Read this. Humor: Practical, Logical, Enthusiastic, Imaginative

Organic Life--Health and Healing-- Helpful and Inspiring Links (Special Thanks to Bridget Geist for the invaluable information):

Multiple Sclerosis, Chronic Disease, Mitochondrion (plural Mitochondria), Dr. Terry Wahls--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLjgBLwH3Wc

Yoga, Weigh Loss and Mobility--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbVpCc_r9Sw&sns=em

Dr. Trudy has more than 25 years clinical experience on health, mental health, and high-tech businesses and professionals.

Dr. Trudy provides highly effective online consultation through Skype, Facetime, or telephone. Her website: www.DrTrudy.com. Tel: 503-439-0514 or 503-895-8360.